[Likewise he's glad she's listening and debating; he thinks she's wrong, still, but even if they don't agree the discussion itself is important.]

That isn't true. Not everyone values their own life most of all.

[That's just a fact; some people don't care about themselves at all, some do but would die for people they love, some do but would gladly sacrifice their life for a greater purpose. There are so many other levels in between, as well.]

Although I understand your argument, and I see how it makes sense to you, it objectively isn't convincing enough for you to reasonably expect people to make such a sacrifice. Even less so when you present it to them the way you have been.

[He isn't saying it pointedly or to insult her, but he thinks it's important to reiterate. Especially since--]

I've gotten the impression that many people here have had difficult lives; they've been treated as unimportant, or valueless, or have had to fight more than anyone should ever have to just to live. Telling them so directly that they should now be willing to give up everything, and that they're naive or cowardly or bad people for not immediately agreeing, is not only unfair but actively harmful to them.

[And if she's truly trying to do what's right, as misguided as Lance thinks it is, then that should matter.]